Mother’s Day is supposed to be one of those gentle holidays. It is supposed to be a day of gratitude, remembrance, honor, and maybe even healing. But in our family, like too many holidays and emotionally charged days, it became something else. Instead of reflection, it became another battlefield. Instead of grief being spoken with care, it came out as accusation. Instead of pain being handled with honesty and responsibility, it erupted into another text war.

I am writing this not because I enjoy airing family conflict. I do not. I would rather write about almost anything else. But there are moments when silence becomes its own kind of participation. When the same patterns repeat over and over, when every holiday or meaningful date becomes fertile ground for explosive anger, cruelty, accusation, and emotional escalation, there comes a point where the record matters.

The texts that follow took place on Mother’s Day and in the days immediately after. I am placing them here as part of that record. Not as a final commentary, not as a complete analysis, and not as a verdict on anyone’s whole life or character. That will come in a later post. For now, this is simply the document trail of another family blow-up, another moment when pain became weaponized, and another reminder that being hurt does not give any of us permission to hurt others without restraint.

My hope is that someday everyone involved in this exchange can look back on it with clearer eyes. Perhaps we will see where we failed to listen. Perhaps we will see where we exaggerated, deflected, accused, or went for the most damaging words we could find. Perhaps we will see that grief deserves compassion, but anger still requires discipline. Pain may explain an outburst, but it does not excuse every action that follows.

Families are not destroyed all at once. Often they are damaged one message at a time, one unchecked accusation at a time, one scorched-earth response at a time. And if there is any hope of healing, it has to begin with truth. Not the kind of “truth” that is merely our own emotional certainty in the moment, but truth that can stand in the light, be examined, and perhaps teach us to choose differently next time.

In a separate post, I analyse this incident. Here: Mother’s Day Scorched Earth Analysis

• Apollo is my transgender son – dead name Amanda
• Artemis is my transgender daughter – dead name Jake
• Aidon is my brother and their uncle
• Lilith is Aidon’s wife
• Theron is my youngest brother
• Steph is Theron’s wife

Family Text Thread

(This text thread included grandma and the rest of the adult family my brothers and their wives, my children and my niece and nephew Theron’s kids. The only ones absent are Aidon’s kids.)

Aidon

Posted a Happy Mother’s Day Picture

Theron

Loved an image

Happy mothers day

Aidon

Apparently because I said happy mothers day Amanda is texting me personally so Apparently I can’t tell the other moms in the family happy mothers day

Apollo

I told him never to text me again because he didn’t bother to reach out when my mom died, and he accused me of lying about the abuse that I suffered at the hands of your guys’s father.

I told him I texted separately so that I could keep his shame a secret since that’s what he likes to do, but if we’re gonna put it out there then why don’t we put everything out there?

Your father is a child rapist

Artemis

His name is Apollo, get it right

Aidon

So leave the chat then
This is for people who want to be family

Apollo

I already told you in our own text messages that I cannot leave this group chat because that’s not how it works when it’s cross platform

So I told you to make a new text message and leave me out of it because once again, I CANNOT just leave this group chat, but of course you don’t read or listen so you once again just told me to leave as if that’s even an option.

Since you don’t like having conversations privately, I’m just gonna drop this here so that everybody can see what we were talking about

Aidon

It has to be hard Amanda to live with all that anger try giving it to Jesus he CAN help

Artemis

Shut the fuck I’m Aidon

You’re so annoying

Go preach to someone who cares

Aidon

Amanda started it

Me

That is not a loving way to bring Jesus into the conversation

My kids never said they didn’t want to be in the family

Aidon

The chat is always used for holiday greetings today is mother’s day i sent a gif which is what the chat is for

Me

It is mother’s day and they lost their mother, please show some decorum

Apollo

Anyway, sorry to everyone else that this had to be done in this conversation. Happy Mother’s Day to all the moms!

Aidon

Ok go read what she said to me and all I did was sent a gif for mom and Steph

Me

So say you are sorry and move on

Apollo

Don’t start with me, Dad. I didn’t start this shit Aidon did. I texted him separately and he brought it here not me. If you have an issue with what going on in this chat, then you have an issue with your little brother.

(I start a separate chat with Apollo)

Aidon

Tell her to have decorum

Apollo

I already apologized to everybody else, but Aidon does not deserve one and will not be getting one. Also, once again, do not put the blame on me for this being in this chat because he’s the one who put it here, not me. I’m not taking responsibility for bullshit I did not fucking start. I do not fucking care. Y’all are fucking grown adults and you can fucking act like it and if you wanna act like fucking petty little bitches then that’s what I’m gonna treat you like.

Artemis

Aidon you have no room to talk about decorum, we all remember how you treated us last year after we greeted you with a smile
Grandma was pissed about the way you acted

Aidon

You guys need to move on and stop trying to divide everybody you guys texted me first please move on you are only spiraling with anger its not good I wish the best and will pray for you guys

Artemis

I wish I knew what anger you’re talking about. In fact, I recall very clearly last year when you were in California where I said hi Aidon! with a smile on my face and you didn’t bother to return the favor

Aidon

Jack you need to move on that was last year you are holding onto stuff for years that was said last year allready

Artemis

You couldn’t even spell my deadname right. You were so close.

Aidon

Sorry I missed an a auto correct

Artemis

If you truly lived as a godly man you wouldn’t be acting this way. I hope one day you will gain the self awareness to see that the way you are acting is in direct opposition to how Jesus would want you to act

Aidon

I will pray someday you actually are shown the meaning of what you say 🙏

Texts between Aidon & Apollo

Apollo

I did forget the way you suggested I was lying about my childhood abuse nor did I forget the way that you were not around nor did you text me and Artemis AT ALL when our mother dies so do not text us Happy Mother’s Day

In fact, do not text me at all unless there is an emergency with your mother.

You’s think a self-proclaimed Christian would understand humility.

I’ve been nice so far, but you literally triggered me and I’m not going to keep being nice when were never nice to begin with. Get out of my life and my text messages.

Aidon

That was in a family group chat.

Apollo

I know it was a family group chat, but families don’t accuse each other of lying so that’s why I’m telling you to never text me in that group chat again.

I would’ve sent these text messages in the group chat, but I decided to hide your shame from your mother, like you like doing- so you’re welcome for that.

Aidon

So leave the family chat

Apollo

That’s not how it works when it’s cross platform. Good try though I know more about phone than you.

Trust and believe if I could’ve just left, I would’ve already done that.

But of course, you never checked to verify that you’re right before you assume that you are.

Aidon

What are you talking about just live your life and move on

(Three laughing emoji)

Apollo

You are funny ass little bitch think that you could text that to the group chat and I wasn’t about to just tell everybody the fucking shit that’s going on

Aidon

You are so delusional just move on

Apollo

I am trying to move on but instead of leaving me the fuck alone you wanted to start shit in the family group chat do not pretend like this is on me

I texted you directly and you wanna act like a little fucking bitch so this is what you get

I don’t give a fuck if me and Artemis and everybody else in the family let you walk on us our entire lives- that is over now.

Aidon

(Two laughing emoji)

Apollo

Whatever keep laughing, you God will judge you one day and he’s going to let you know that this shit is not at all Jesus like. How’s the life? You deserve and never text me again – or that group chat because that group chat includes me.

Aidon

Cool you said what you want let it go it must suck to live with so much anger that is misplaced

Apollo

My anchor is not misplaced at you when you suggest that I was lying about abuse that happened to me when I was fucking four. That anger is exactly where it belongs.

Texts between Apollo and Grandma

Apollo

He admitted it to me, and apologized.

I will just drop off your mother’s day card.

I am not playing stupid games where I let you tell me that something that dramatically altered my life- and that grandpa, your husband, (name redacted) literally admitted to doing in January of 2019, didn’t actually happen.

And for the record- Aidon had every opportunity to ask Papa about it, and I even gave him my blessing and he didn’t ask Papa about it because he KNEW papa would admit to it.

And just a few days before he passed when I called the family and had Aidon go into Papa’s room alone- I was telling pap that I decided to forgive him for what he did.

I am the victim here, not any of you.

As far as I am concerned, you owe me an apology for accusing me of lying before even seeked out further information.

If you think this is hard for you to hear- imagine how hard it was for me to live it.

Texts between Apollo and I

Me

Dude back off!  I am defending you and putting Aidon in his place.  Don’t turn your anger at me!

Don’t assume it is about you

Apollo

Okay, sorry

I think I took the message wrong

Me

He is an ass
You know he is an ass
He only has asshole responses

Apollo

I don’t know why me thinking that texting him separately and telling him not to text me again would work and not cause issues in the family group chat, but I didn’t think that.

Aidon

I know he is clueless
And an asshole

Apollo

I blocked Aidon before you texted the group chat so I think that’s why I misunderstood your message

Me

He knows nothing of the love of God and he is the one who left the family, running off to Texas

Apollo

I didn’t know he had said something

Me

Cuz he is an asshole

He can’t help himself He thinks he is right and thinks that makes anything he does acceptable

Apollo

Something we all struggled with at times, I believe.

There’s an animated show I watch from when I was a kid called Avatar The Legend of Korra and in it they point out that the main villains of the series were all people who thought they were right and because of that, the outcome justified the means.

Me

Yep

Much blood has been shed because of that

Unfortunately

(Next day)

Me

I know yesterday was hard. I know you miss your mom, and I know there is a lot of pain there. I also know your uncle said things that were unloving and hurtful, and he should not have done that.

But Grandma should not have learned about Grandpa that way, especially in mother’s day. She deserved more care than that. Not by text, not in anger and not on mother’s day. Part of loving her and respecting her means not letting our own pain become something that wounds her too.

I love you, so I need to be honest. I also know that me saying this may make you angry with me, but I would not be loving you well if I avoided the truth just to keep the peace. When you are hurt or angry, sometimes the people closest to you end up getting hurt by it too. I understand that your pain is real, but pain does not make it okay to hurt others.

I’m not saying this to attack you. I’m saying it because I love you and because truth matters. We can talk more later when things are calmer. Love you.

(Two days later)

Apollo

You all need to remember that i have been having to LIE to grandma about my entire life’s experience every time I fucking see her and the rest of the family

Since I was 4

You need to also remember that I deserve more than having to lie to her because that’s what y’all decided, and not only that- I’ve tried to open up to grandma before but she is unreceptive. This is information YOU DID NOT KNOW before you decided to tell me I told her at the wrong time.

None of you have enough empathy for me. I owe You all seem to have more empathy for each other’s feelings in regard to the subject than you do for the ABUSE CHILD

Do you even know what she said to me when she called me?

Do you know how often she FORCES her opinion on me that papa was a good man just when I critique the way he cut corners in the repairs & upgrades to this house?

I’m trying not to be angry with you because I know that you don’t know any of this information, but in light of this new information, you need to understand that Grandma is not innocent and she has never fucking been.

And I know that people in the family, including her- saw, and heard things that they that made them suspicious- but they decided to cling to plausible deniability when Papa denied anything instead of protecting the child that they were concerned about.

You and Mom did it. The first time I said, I didn’t like being tickled by papa. Which by the way a four year-old should not have to be able to tell you in explicit terms that they’re being for you to figure out that they’re being abused- they are four!

They don’t know those terms, and you and mom especially DID NOT teach me the words, penis and vagina.

You know, Mom apologized for the way that she overlooked my abuse in those instances, and you still have not, So you all need to stop with the assumption that none of you are complicit in my abuse in anyway, because you all are.

Just because y’alls brain pushed it out of your consciousness, because it was a hard topic- That’s not mean that it didn’t happen and does not mean it’s not buried in your psyche, where y’all refuse to remember it.

I’d also really like to know did you call out your mother for calling your child a liar? Or are you just letting that side for her because of how old she is?

She should know better than Aidon, and she said no better than they should both know better than me. That’s to do that fucking awful, reprehensible fucking shit.

So, if you didn’t address your moms ill behavior that she has almost 50 years life experience on me, then I definitely don’t care what you have to say about how she found out about me being raped 25 years ago.

I am 29

I may be an adult now, but I was not an adult when the abuse happened, I wasn’t even old enough to know what happened and when I tried to tell you all in my own words when I was going through, you all brushed it off to the side

She didn’t have to find out these Mother’s Day. From me. She could’ve found out by a lot of you 25 years ago.

If you’re upset about how she found out, you need to look at your own actions and behaviors, and the shit that you let slide in your brothers and your father

Every time I see her she gets upset anytime I critique your father and that’s what I have to deal with still to this day.

Your mother is not fucking innocent, and I will not sit here and pretend like she is. And neither are any of you that were adults when I was being abused because there were clues and there were signs that it was happening, and you all consciously chose to overlook them.

I’m sick of letting this shit slide for all of your else’s sake. What about mine? What about the abuse that never got resolved that I’m still dealing with 25 years later at the age of fucking 29. What about that?!

I’m sitting here fucking crying, bawling my fucking eyes out because still, you are acting more concerned about your mothers emotions than your child that was fucking raped.

Sit with that, and come back to me when you are willing to admit that there are things that this entire family overlooked

My whole life is still fucked because of the actions of your father and all of you. And you need to remember that I am NOT fine now. I am still fucked up and y’all expect me to act like I’m not.

You also need to remember that for the past 25 years I have been preparing for her to call me a liar. I saw this coming so while it hurts, I am not gonna fucking pander to her bullshit.

I am better off without the people that don’t care to believe me

I told her I would forgive her if she ever real realizes the absurdity of her actions, but I am NEVER coming to her, and requesting her forgive me when she literally overlooked my abuse

I literally put my hand in the pants of your father on the back patio in front of the entire family and nobody questioned it. So you will not sit here and tell me that I’m wrong.

So don’t even think about it

I was failed by every single member of this family and they all try to make me out to be the bad guy so they can absolve themselves of any wrongdoing and I’m done with it. I’m not pretending anymore. I’m not tiptoeing around the feelings of people who were grown adults while my ENTIRE LIFE was being stunted. I deserved better than this family.

Aly was also abused by her step dad but at least her mom protected her. You have no idea the hurt you have all put me through.

Families overlooking abuse is not uncommon. I’m not a special case. It’s not unbelievable. This happens all of the time.

I can spot a neglected or abused child a mile a fucking way because it’s obvious in their behaviors. The issue in this family is not that nobody knew- It’s that everybody else overlooked every single hint that was given to them when they should have known better.

If I saw even a child, I didn’t know attempts to put their hands in the pants of somebody else I would immediately contact CPS because that is a huge indicator of child abuse.

I’m sick of pretending like the bunch of you should not have known better- because you should have, and I am worse off because you all did nothing.

The reason I can’t stop smoking weed even when I developed medical issues is because of your dad, and also because of everybody else in this family- because y’all had multiple opportunities to protect me and you never did.

There’s no more arguing about who deserves to have bad feelings over papa because all of you do because every single one of you overlooked my abuse.

Papa is guilty, Grandma is guilty, Aidon, Theron, Lilith, You, Mom, that one family friend with the one hand-are ALL guilty and the only one who’s acknowledged it was mom.

The reason I mentioned the guy with one hand is because he was there that day on the back patio, eating his food, when I tried to put my hand in your fathers pants, He saw that, and so did every other guest there, and none of them did anything every single adult that was there that day is guilty.

Jessica’s kid Sue is going through some serious fucking shit right now and I have done everything in my power to protect her. So no I do not understand and any of the actions of any of you. For this long I’ve been able to give y’all plausible deniability that maybe you didn’t know better- but now that I’m 29 and still younger than most of you and my abuse happened, and I know better, and I did better for Sue- I can no longer give you a pass for not doing that for me

All I’m asking for is the families, acknowledgment and empathy and that seems to continuously be too much to fucking ask. So if the family doesn’t want me as the person that I am- and that person is in abuse child- then I don’t need them around because I have plenty of people in my life that do believe me and do love me for who I am.

And you may see it as wrong behavior on my part, but this is what I’ve HAD to do to protect myself from Aidon because he does not even stop harassing me and triggering me even when I text him personally just to do that.

The only thing that has stopped in his behavior toward me, MULTIPLE TIMES NOW- has been blowing up in front the family because he has no humility and will not leave me alone otherwise Your mistake is that you still don’t see me as the victim in that moment, but I was. And I was doing what I had to to protect myself from a manipulative liar.

I am no longer pretending like my reaction was too much. I’m no longer pretending like all of you aren’t complicit. I’m done. You all can either love me for my truth, or oh well I guess, it is what it is, because I can’t make anyone do that.

I truly believe that you are mistaken in whether or not my behavior with Aidon are justified because you don’t see his actions as being manipulative, but they were.

He was trying to assert his dominance, and prove to the family that I am unhinged and unfair, by sharing only part of the story in the family group chat.I don’t have to take that kind of abuse, whether or not you think that I do.

I should not have to go into explicit detail to tell you all about how I put my hand in your dads pants in front of everyone, and how (graphic content removed), for you all to fucking believe me- y’all and then y’all wanna get upset the way you have to find out that information

But I didn’t wanna have to fucking say it. But none of y’all wanna fucking believe me so I don’t have the choice!

Not to mention, Aidon was not only ridiculing my whole life in my identity in those texts, He was also ridiculing, and making fun of my fucking abuse.

Y’all seem to not understand the gravity of all that.

Okay, I’m done now

If y’all had listened and believed me the first time, then I wouldn’t be under so much stress to even get put in this position to blow up in front of y’all

You guys have never given me a safe space to share this information with you all- so how can you even begin to blame me?

I truly believe that you are mistaken in whether or not my behavior with Aidon are justified because you don’t see his actions as being manipulative, but they were.

He was trying to assert his dominance, and prove to the family that I am unhinged and unfair, by sharing only part of the story in the family group chat.

I don’t have to take that kind of abuse, whether or not you think that I do.

I didn’t want to say this to you, because it is going to be extremely hard to hear and I know that your mom won’t admit to it. Aidon didn’t admit to it when I brought it up to him, but it’s interesting to me that they only two people to get extremely angry at my accusation are the two people that I have memories of walking in on it.

I can tell you more about those two instances if you want, but I really don’t like talking about it- because like I said, Grandma and Aidon won’t admit to it like your dad did. And they will insist it never happened.

I knew the family would never believe me,  because they didn’t from the get-go and that’s why I never told anybody as an adult until your father admitted it to me himself.

Because then there was no denying it because he admitted it.

Me

I’m driving right now, so I’m not going to respond point by point.

And honestly, 50+ text messages is a bit over the top. I can’t respond to a shotgun blast of issues all at once. Some of the points you’re raising are important and deserve a thoughtful response, but I can’t give each point the attention it deserves in the middle of this kind of flood of messages.

I also honestly can’t tell right now if you want to have a real conversation and hear what I have to say, or if you mainly want to attack me. We can talk later when things are calmer and more focused.

Apollo

I don’t know why this is the attitude that you have come back to me with.

I did not tell you to respond to them all at once. You have plenty of time. You can take days if you need.

Me

I haven’t had time to read them.

Apollo

I know you haven’t had time to read them because I sent them less than an hour ago

So I don’t know why you’ve come with this assumption that I’m expecting you to read them and respond right now

The information I’ve shared in those text. Messages is going to be uncomfortable and hard to read. And I recommend that you do it at night at home with Mrs. Lirien.

You’re going to need the support

I do want to have this conversation with you. Obviously that’s why I sent the messages. There is a lot of information that you did not know beforehand that you need to know before you start accusing me of wrongdoing.

I understand there’s a lot of text messages, but that’s just because it’s a lot of information- so take your time with it because I do not need an immediate response. I’ve been holding onto it for 25 years, I can wait a little longer for a response.25 years of trauma does not fit neatly into just a couple of text messages unfortunately.

Pat’s mom Betty Sue said to her that she thinks I need to finally let this all out because mom passed away and she was the only one that fully believed me and took accountability for her own (perhaps unintentional) wrongdoing in the situation. And honestly- I think she’s right.

It literally takes me multiple therapy sessions when I start with a new therapist just to get through my entire life of trauma. I’m sorry that 50 messages is a lot for you, but it’s also a lot for me. But like I said, I’m no longer reducing my trauma and pretending that things that did happen didn’t just for y’alls emotions.

Y’all may not realize that I have been the peacekeeper in the family by keeping everything to myself, but I have been and I’m no longer taking on that emotionally-immature role of being the peacekeeper, and allowing y’all to believe things that are not true, and then expect me to take bullying and manipulation like it ain’t no thing.

I don’t know why you got this idea that I’m in the business of making you feel bad for no reason because I’m only bringing this up to you because I want to talk to you about it, Not because I want you to feel bad.

And once again here, I am trying to be real with you, and the vulnerable about what actually happened to me and you’re making it about yourself

I literally just sat here and cried about how I was fucking abused in front of everybody and you wanted to get mad at me

My abuse is not about you and your feelings

How can I ever be vulnerable with you If every time I do you get aggressive?

You just proved right now why no one has been able to find things out in a decent matter because when I bring it up, you all just get mad- you included!

Stop blaming me for reactions that are the obvious outcome to the family belittling me, not believing me, and making it about themselves.

Me

I need to tell you something hard because I love you.

Right now, your anger is controlling you more than you realize. Every time you feel deeply hurt or triggered, you go to the nuclear option and try to make everyone around you feel the same pain you are feeling. That is not healthy, and it is hurting the people who love you.

Part of becoming a mature adult is learning how to control your anger instead of letting your anger control you. We are all responsible for our actions, especially when we are emotional. Pain explains behavior, but it does not excuse it.

And deflecting responsibility or trying to justify hurting people is not acceptable either. You do not accept that standard from other people when they hurt you, and the same standard has to apply to you too.

I am not saying this to shame you or reject you. I am saying it because I love you enough to tell you the truth. I want better for you than a cycle where anger keeps damaging your relationships and then convincing you that everyone else deserved it.

Apollo

Absolutely do not text me with another opinion until you read all of my messages

Don’t take the excuse that you can’t read my messages and then just start texting me and a reactive manner when you haven’t even been able to think about them

Me

You didn’t even take time to consider what I messaged you before you attacked back.

Apollo

That’s not cool. It’s emotionally immature and it’s manipulative.

I’m literally not attacking you, and if you accuse me of attacking you once more than we could just stop talking

Because like I said, I’m not going to diminish what happened to me and put your guises feelings ahead of mine when it comes to my abuse

You are letting your emotions get the best of you right now and you’re projecting it on me. So let’s end this conversation right here before it gets worse.

Like I said, you need to take a look at this when you’re with Mrs. Lirien and you can be with someone who helps you maintain a more level head.

Me

Nothing I am saying diminishes what happened to you or excuses it. I have already acknowledged that what happened to you was real and wrong.

But saying that you are still responsible for your actions, and saying that Grandma did not deserve to be treated that way, does not diminish your pain. Those two things can both be true at the same time.

What I am seeing right now is an attempt to justify or excuse a scorched earth way of treating other people because of your hurt and anger. I understand where the anger comes from. I do not agree with what you chose to do with it.

Apollo

Please do not talk to me anymore until you are able to actually sit with my messages with Mrs. Lirien

(More than a week later)

Me

I love you

Apollo

I love you too

Texts between Aidon and I

Me

Aidon, I’ve been trying to sort through a lot of painful and emotionally charged conversations lately, and I realized there are some things I may not fully understand or may never have clearly asked you about. I’m not trying to attack you or start another conflict. I have had enough of that this last week. I’m honestly just trying to better understand what happened, what people knew, and how everyone experienced things differently.

Apollo has been telling me a lot of things, and the reality is I was not there for many of the situations being talked about, so I can’t honestly speak to it. I’m also realizing there are details and pieces of context that sometimes surface later that I did not previously know or understand. Because of that, I’m trying to slow down, ask careful questions, and get as close to the bedrock truth as I can instead of reacting emotionally or making assumptions.

One thing I wanted to ask about was when you talked with Theron and me after Dad passed and said Dad had admitted things and that we shouldn’t tell Grandma while she was grieving. I realized later I never clarified exactly what you meant by that.

Did Dad personally say something directly to you about it, or were you referring to what Apollo had told you afterward? Or were you present when Apollo talked with Dad and heard part of the conversation? I’m just trying to understand more clearly what you personally witnessed versus what you may have heard secondhand.

I also wanted to ask about something Apollo mentioned to me this week, involving the garage at Dad’s old house. Apollo said you walked in at one point, saw something and told him to leave the garage. I’m not assuming anything here, and I’m not trying to put words in your mouth. I just wanted to ask what you remember about that situation, if anything, and whether anything at the time struck you as concerning or confusing.

Part of why I’m asking these questions is because my goal is ultimately to help Apollo heal and to better understand what they are carrying and reacting to. In order to do that well, I feel like I need as clear and accurate an understanding as possible of what happened, what people knew, and how different family members experienced things.

I know these are difficult topics, and I appreciate you being willing to talk about them calmly and honestly.

Aidon

You can call me but the fact that you even think I knew something tells me you cant tell where the truth is she is lieing about me ever even knowing and tells me she is starting to believe her lies my conscience is clear and if you believe her lies over me than that’s all that needs to be said it hurts that you even entertained it you’ve known me my whole life

Me

Aidon, I’m not trying to accuse you of knowingly covering anything up, and I’m sorry if my questions came across that way.

The reason I asked is because different things have been said by different people, and I’m trying to sort out what was directly witnessed, what was inferred, and what may have been misunderstood over time. I’m not assuming guilt by asking questions. Please don’t take it that way.

I do know you called Theron and me over after Dad passed and said Dad had admitted things, and I realized later I never fully understood whether you meant you personally heard something from Dad or whether you were referring to what Apollo had shared.

I’m trying to approach this carefully because my goal is not to attack family members. My goal is to understand the truth as clearly as I can and help Apollo heal. There is no accusation here.

I would like to see the entire family healed, that is your goal as well?

Aidon

If you want the family healed it starts with Amanda stop lieing and at the end of the day dad is dead and im not dad and I have never done anything to fight with Amanda she always attacks first then plays the victim and for me the way she lies about me destroys all her credibility with me.

Me

Aidon, I’m not trying to take sides against you or automatically believe everything any one person says. I’m trying to sort through a painful and emotionally charged situation carefully and honestly.

I understand that you feel hurt and falsely accused, and I’m not ignoring that. I also understand that there are years of tension and conflict that affect how everybody sees each other now.

Unfortunately, the past still affects all of us whether we want it to or not. Wounds that never fully healed tend to keep resurfacing, and I think that is part of what we are seeing now.

I truly want healing for this family, and I believe you do too. I want to approach all of this with humility, wisdom, and honesty, and I’ve been praying for God’s guidance through it because I know this is bigger than any one of us.

I also feel like this is becoming too heavy for Mom to carry alone, and I worry that things will continue spiraling if we don’t find a healthier way forward. Whether we agree on every detail or not, I think we all need each other more than we realize. Think about it and pray about it. We can talk later.

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(Aidon called our mother and says I am harassing him.)

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A painful Mother’s Day exchange became another reminder that grief deserves compassion, but anger still requires discipline. This post preserves the record of a family conflict in the hope that truth, reflection, and accountability may one day open the door to healing.

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